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By Sam Mwaura/Samrack Media
101 Tips & Advice to Enrich Diaspora Marriages & Relationships
BALANCE,VARIETY & MODERATION
1.If Possible Pray with each other and read the Bible or Daily devotional together
2.If Possible wear your wedding rings or Wedding regalia at all times/if lost buy new ones and have your local pastor bless and consecrate them
3 If Possible start each day with a Kiss
4.Accept the differences
5.Be Polite
6.Be Gentle
7.Give Gifts
8.Open that door for her always, not just when the girl or car is new
9.Hung that coat for him
10.Smile often
11.Talk about dreams
12.Send a card for no reason
13. Laugh together
14. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks
15.Listen well
16 Communicate well
17.Encourage
18.Do it his or her way
19.Know his or her needs
20. Fix the other persons breakfast
21.If possible Breakfast in bed
22.Compliment twice a day
23.Call during the day
24.Slow down
25.Hold hands
26.Ask for each others opinion
27.Look your best as you did while dating
28.Celebrate birthdays in a big way
29.Send Flowers frequently or every Valentines day,Mothers day, and anniversary
30.Admit when wrong
31.Avoid heated arguments
32.Choose your battles wisely e.g Kitchen stuff left to the wife,Landscaping left to the Man
33.Beware of nagging
34. Solve your problems together in prayer
35 Study the Bible together
36.Serve God and others together
37.Ask what can I do to make you happier?
38.Call each other by their first names or love name preferred e.g Hun,Pumkin,
39.Be kind,Be positive
40.Be vulnerable
41.Go out once a week
42.Respond quickly to the others persons request no matter how small or big
43.Talk about your Love
44.Talk about your favorite times together
45. Treat each other friends and relatives with courtesy
46. Be sensitive to each other’s sexual desires
47.Watch the snow falling together
48 Say “I love you” frequently
49.Watch the sunsets together
50.Read a useful book about relationships or marriage and discuss it with each other
51.Select a song,a hymn or create our “song” book
52.Start the day with a Hug
53.Seek Outside help,Family Therapist or Counselor,when needed
54.Compliment and talk god about your close friend or spouse
55.Take her car for an oil change and car wash frequently
55.Take his suits to the dry cleaners
56.Ask for forgiveness frequently
57.Have a joint account for all your bills,have your own personal accounts and have joint savings account or investments accounts
58.Share an APPLE daily A: Appreciation,P: Provision P:Protection L:Love and E: Encouragement
59.Once in awhile match your clothes or color of your clothes together when going out or indoors
60. Eat from the same table and when you get older from the same plate..
61. Always sit together when possible
62.Be the first to share and breaking news,story ,thought, dream,concern or idea
63.Go for retreats or getaways often
64.Say “little nothings” to each other
65. Watch romantic movies together
66.Candle light dinners is a must
67.Write each other love letters, notes and love stickies
68.Suprise each other with
69.Share Jokes together
70.Have a Karaoke,or dance night together
71.Even when you argue,or disagree bitterly sleep in the same bed
72.Ice cream together
73.Hit the gym together
74.Join a couples fellowship or group with similar goals or ideals
75.Be accountable to each other to maintain integrity
76.Give each other space but not for long ..atimes Men need their man cave to process some thoughts
77.Pull out your old albums, dating,wedding photos or videos watch them together
78.Wear his T-shirts and socks he loves that..
79.Share your Bucket List with each other
80.Love Sacrifice and Compromise be your shield
81.Go for old school reunions together
82.Get a private photoshoot Just the two of you, and perhaps your kids or parents too
83.Be detailed about him or her e.g Get to know her favorite Perfume,or Fragrance,her shoe size, his favorite color, sports team, movie or car
84.Write your wills or Medical letters or Proxys together
85.Get health and Life Insurance for each other
86.Do your taxes together
87. Avoid the King size beds
88.Consult,Consult Consult
89.Touch often
90.Self-Centeredness chokes relationships
91 .Avoid unrealistic expectations
92.Avoid false assumptions
93.Do good and Communicate. Communicate,Communicate,Communicate
94.Focus on your partner strengths and help them overcome their weaknesses
95. Spend ample time with each other.
96.Cry together when happy or in crisis
97.Give each other breathing space but not for too long..
98.Sustain each other in difficult times
99. Have a shared vision
101.End the day with a hug
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