It is in the quiet crucible of your personal private sufferings that your noblest Dreams are born and God’s greatest gifs are given in compesation for whatyouhave been through..”IT IS WELL”
Your thoughts are the building blocks of life. You build your future thought by thought.
Most people are clueless about how to make a life. For them, life just happens. From the time they get up in the morning to the time they go to bed at night, they are adrift on an Ocean of Ignorance. They don’t design their life; it simply happens by default. They lose the opportunity to build the life of their dreams.
A few people build their lives on great thoughts. These folks know that the thoughts they put into their mind create the foundation for their dreams. Life happens one thought at a time, and they want to choose their thoughts.
These are the types of thoughts that they select:
1. Thoughts of excellence
2. Thoughts of love
3. Thoughts of joy
4. Thoughts of greatness
5. Thoughts of abundance
6. Thoughts of God’s favor and love
7. Thoughts of strength
8. Positive thoughts
These are the building blocks for their lives. It’s no wonder that they live their dreams, because these are the thoughts from which dreams are made.
Don’t waste your life in default mode. The thought factory is always open, and you can select any type of thoughts. Choose your thoughts well and make your life into an awesome adventure.
There is no limit to how good your life can become.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
“Destiny is not a matter of chance, but of choice. Not something to wish for, but to attain.”
— William Jennings Bryan
“Surround yourself with the best people you can find, delegate authority, and don’t interfere as long as the policy you’ve decided upon is being carried out.”
— Ronald Reagan
The Seven “C’s” of Success by Brian Tracy;
1. Clarity; be clear on who you are and what you want
2. Competence; be excellent at what you do now
3. Constraints; obstacles and hurdles make you better
4. Concentration; focus on one thing until it is finished
… 5. Creativity; Flood your life with ideas
6. Courage; do what you know is right
7. Continuous learning; keep your mind active
If God took you to it, He’ll get you through it.
Exodus 14 records the story of how the Hebrews escaped from bondage and slavery in Egypt. On their way out of Egypt, they camped in the desert near the Red Sea. They thought God was leading them out of Egypt. However, Pharaoh led the Egyptian army to where the Israelites were, and he trapped them against the sea. The Israelites must have felt betrayed by God, for it looked as though he didn’t follow through on his plan to lead the Israelites out of captivity in Egypt. But God was faithful to his word — he didn’t let his people down. He led them through the Red Sea and delivered on his promises.You have probably faced times when you thought that you could never do something, never complete a particular task, or never make it to the finish. However, if God has promised you something, then you can be confident that God will get you through the difficult times in order to bring about his promise.
This is true in Joseph’s life. God took him through years of pain and suffering for an ultimate benefit; Joseph realizes this and, in Genesis 50:20, says, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” God had a bigger plan for Joseph’s life, and God didn’t let him down. God led Joseph through his struggles.
This principle is also true in your life. Even though you may be going through extremely painful times, do not fear for God will get you through the hard times you face (see Psalm 23:4). If God took you to it, He’ll get you through it.
There’s this quote that says, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.
The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friendship.
“The real problem is not that we are different, nor that we disagree and have conflict. It’s that most of us automatically view conflict as something negative rather than as a tool God can use to help us better understand ourselves and one another.”Annonymous.
How to Be a Proverbs 31 Husband
by Stu Gray
The last twenty-one verses of Proverbs 31 are about a good and virtuous wife.
There are some great character qualities for women to think about there – hardworking, generous, passionate, caring, industrious, a sacrificial heart, a good speaker, loves to laugh, and she enjoys her family.
When I look at these verses, I notice that the husband of this woman is mentioned 3 times.
Lets look at those 3 mentions and see if we can glean something for husbands today:
1. vs. 11 – Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
This husband trusts his wife. One version of this passage says that with her, “he has everything he needs’ . There must be Trust.
Not controlling. Not manipulation. Trust.
Do you believe that she has your best interests in mind? Do you believe that you are on the same team with her? Are you together on the some of the “biggies” in marriage – SEX, MONEY, CHILDREN, COMMUNICATION and INLAWS?
This husband trusts her and she enriches his life. When you are on the same team with your wife, it allows her to bring fullness to your life. When you trust, you allow her to be all she is, you build her up and allow her to grow and blossom into a beautiful woman. If you don’t trust, she is unable to thrive.
Wives – Do you give your husband the opportunity to trust you? Do you keep the things he tells you in confidence? Do you build him up, or tear him down with your words?
2. vs. 23 – Her husband is well known at the city gates where he sits with the other civic leaders.
This husband is respected by others. These section in Proverbs talks mainly about the woman being industrious and hardworking, but in this verse, we see that the husband ain’t no slacker. He’s involved with business and work going on in the city.
This is something we should all strive to be. Men who care about the decisions that are going on where we live. Our Villages, cities, states, nations…we should be involved, we should care about what is going on where we live.
The phrase – “Behind every good man is a good woman” comes to mind. Because of the wonderful relationship that this man has with his wife – he is free to be a decision maker, a mover and a shaker. She is such a woman of great character, that he is able to excel in the marketplace.
Together, this husband and wife are an amazing team.
Hubbys: Are you the kind of man that she can believe in?
Wifeys: What can your hubby do to help you believe in him?
3. vs. 28,29 – …Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”
This guy knows how to give a compliment. “Other women are nice and all, but Sweet Lips – YOU are the cream of the crop.” (that’s the SGLT version – Stu Gray Living Translation)
We need to compliment our wives. They take care of so many things. My Beautiful Wife™ is a great “administrator” person – she’s good with the bills, she’s good with the organizing of the house, the laundry, the scheduling, the food we eat… and how much do I acknowledge that?
Not nearly enough.
The compliments and encouragements have to be real. They must be heart felt, and they can’t be generic. Think of something specific that your wife does and that makes your life easier…
Then tell her!!!
To be a Proverbs 31 Husband we should:
*Trust Our Wives!
*Be a Man Worthy of a Good Woman!
*Praise Her More Often!
Weekly thought~ Want to really be somebody?
Don’t dream about athletic achievements or business success or political power. Be an encourager. You’ll have a far more lasting impact on the world around you. Encouragement comes in many forms; a smile, a telephone call, a thoughtful e-mail or note. Make these uplifting acts a habit, and you can change the world at least a little part. Even though you may never know all the effects of your encouragement, be assured that others will remember you as somebody special.
…let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth. 1John 3:18
Weekly prayer~ Dear God, thank you so much for giving me this day to live for You as an opportunity to touch someone through something as simple as living. I pray that You will be with me and help me to love out loud. Grant me Your Spirit and the courage to take this step and make a difference in somebody’s life today. In your name I pray. Amen,
QUOTATION OF THE WEEK
Sticks and stones will break our bones, but words will break our hearts.
The destructive power of words is massive. When we use them to strike back out of frustration, they can cut deep and leave lasting scars. When we use them in anger, we enter a battle with the sharp sword of words slashing and tearing apart relationships. Words can do so much damage, but they also can bring much healing. Try a little exercise. When you find yourself in a heated conversation and you feel a “button” being pushed, instead of lashing out with words of anger or defense, look for something positive in the discussion. Perhaps you can acknowledge a grain of truth in the words. (Be honest with yourself for there is often some truth in criticism.) Find something about the other person and their feelings that you can compliment, or at least acknowledge. Let those words be your first reply. That might defuse the attack that you are feeling . . . or it may not! Regardless, you may have planted a seed of change in the atmosphere. If you can continue in this vein, you take the steam out of an emotional exchange. Rather than focusing on your “button,” you have acknowledged feelings and perhaps brought a little calmness and reason to the discussion. It is very difficult for a battle of words to take place if you refuse to participate in the attack. A spirited exchange of words done with respect and true listening can be very positive and fun, but a mean spirited, hateful exchange filled with personal attacks can only bring destruction to relationships, sometimes to the point that rebuilding is very difficult if not impossible.
It is interesting how we witness people living their lives regretting words: both the said and the unsaid. We are quick to bring words of gossip, negative thoughts, and anger into our conversations but reluctant to bring in the words of support, positive thoughts, or a simple “thank you.”
Pick a day and commit to using only positive words in any exchange you have. Refuse to participate in negative gossip. Refuse to allow anger or harshness to be a part of your discussions. Put a rubber band around your wrist as a reminder and use it to “snap” yourself out of the use of negative words when you feel them rising. You may find this very difficult and find yourself resisting the plan, which may be a sign of just how much you use negative and angry words. Or you may find it refreshing and enlightening. Either way, it can be the beginning of a change in the way you use words.
One final note: Never, never, never use email to resolve an interpersonal problem, particularly one that involves high emotion. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be very helpful, but do not hit that send button.
Blessings and love,
A weekly thought from our contributors – Editor’s Choice
A WOMAN (SELFLESS CHARACTER)
Proverbs 31: 10-1 asks “A woman of noble character who can find? She is worth far more that rubies”. But, during the Mau Mau movement before the country of Kenya got independence, women were involved. They were fighters that no one talks about. They went to the forest with other men. They were the unsung warriors”. They made sure that people in the forest were fed, the sick were taken care of and women raised money, stole guns, stole medicine, transported all kinds of goods into the forest, and brought it to the men at night. When the Patrol fell asleep after midnight women took advantage of this.
One of the women “Field Marshall Muthoni” was trapping wildlife to cook. She went to fight alongside famous worriors of the forest like Dedan Kimathi Waciuri. In fact, Muthoni was one of the last to surrender from the forest upon independence, and she was not sure surrendering was the best way forward until she saw the African flag. She is still alive today.
Thus the women with a Noble character.
Another woman warrior Wambui Otieno – Mbugua joined the fight for independence from 1950. She joined Mau Mau at the start of the Emergency in 1953, as a Scout and urban guerrilla, moving through the rank until she had taken all 15 warrior oaths. In many instances she reported directly to the movement’s War Council. She was jailed and detained many times. After 1956, Wambui became a member of the resurgent trade union movement and worked closely with Tom Mboya and other trade unionists, becoming notorious for her activism against the colonial government. This was a woman of selfless character.
Another woman Wangari Mathai Noble Prize Winner – denied herself and refused the beauty of our City Nairobi to be destroyed. She solely dared the Authority, the President of that time, and protected Serena (part of Uhuru Park) she exposed women abuse and pressed on, urging all of us to plant a tree each day whenever and wherever to protect our environment. Surely a Noble character.
A woman, precious and rare:-
Her character as a wife, Her Devotion as a Homemaker, Her Generosity as a Neighbour, her Devotion as Home Maker, Her influence as teacher, Her Effectiveness as a mother, Her Excellence as a Person. Esther humbled herself and said if I die I die, called for a prayer and fasting and approached the King with tears for her people and nation to be rescued. (Esther 4:15-16). At such a time like this, we call upon women the virtuous Women, Esther to stand with our Nation Kenya in Prayer and Fasting. She can laugh at the days to come, because she has inner strength that gives her confidence. It only comes from the woman who fears the Lord, because her wisdom comes from seeking HIM continuously.
Written by: Catherine Wachira
Chairlady, Kenya Christian Fellowship in America, Women’s Department in New England